Dear Carmine,

That is wonderful news. I spent 5 days with my dad last week, a person I have always had a difficult relationship with. I decided that this time I would really, really listen to him. To let him do most of the talking, guide the conversation. And that before I spoke or did anything, I would ask myself the question: "Is this the most compassionate thing I could be doing for my dad in this moment?" It wasn't easy, he pushed some of my buttons, but when I left on Friday, I told him I loved him, and he told me what a great visit it was. Later told his wife that it was the best visit ever. It was a very valuable lesson for me. How much can change with just a few (not so simple) changes in my own mindset and way of being.

Good luck and let us know how it goes! I'll be thinking of you.
xxx
Schon

On 27 May 2018, at 10:25, Carmine Torella (via 0318ct list) <0318ct@hoffmangroups.org> wrote:

Today is the day...my Mom is coming over.  It’s been 25 or so years. Thank you to all the Hoffman angels for saving my life.

Thank You,

Carmine Torella